Sunday, October 12, 2008

Return of the old me

The last two years have not been kind to my resistance against stress and pressure and my ability to see things in perspective. Not coincidentally, a lot of (albeit good) things happened to me these years: I moved to a new city, got a new job in the video games industry, raised a son, got married, and now we're expecting a second child.

Suffice to say that the extra responsibilities I gained for other people (of which I used to have almost none in the past) piled up a little too high for me. I was trying too hard to be the best husband, father, friend, employee, ... possible. I was losing sleep and spare time pretty fast, and I started taking things way too serious.

And then, about a week ago, I realized how far I've strayed from the path of inner peace. I need to get a grip on myself again, so now I'm trying to live by a few simple rules:

  • Accept what happens, and don't try to change it. You will only realize that you can't change all that much, which will only annoy and aggravate you. Don't fight the stream, let yourself get carried by it and enjoy the ride.
  • Forgive peoples' mistakes and admit your own.
  • Try to look at things in perspective. If something bad happens, try to see it in the big picture and realize that it's never as bad as you first think it was.
  • Don't let yourself get riled up by other people in traffic. Let speeders pass, take your time, hang back if necessary, and when some driver thinks he owns the road, just shake your head and forget about it.
  • Don't always play music, even if it should relax you; try to listen to and enjoy the silence every now and then.
  • Don't forget to breathe.
  • Look up at the sky more.

9 comments:

JS said...
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JS said...

I hope you will reconcile with your inner self. When things go bad, just listen to ABBA

Disco & Spaghetti code 4 EVER

AVA said...

I'm in for the Disco ;-)

Xander said...
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JS said...

put back your 1000 lines comment plz

Xander said...

Nothing like a little stress caused
by the ever occuring planning mishaps.
But no matter how many times you tell yourself, if only we did those things a little in advance, we wouldn't be stressing so much when the deadline approaches ... every time it's the same old story. So sit back enjoy the ride, and just "go" for it :p

PS: JS why don't you make a mash-up of ABBA and Tunak Tunak

Tine said...

Wait until he does his little minimalistic ABBA-dance.

JS said...

Show-us the minimalistic ABBA-dance!

Google video plz

Tine said...

I look up to the sky
and see the clouds fly by,
they are little white dots on a light-blue sea.
They don't know where they go, but fly without sorrow carried by the winds wings.

Let me be your little cloud, my soft summer breeze, and together we fly on a beautiful colored sky towards a peaceful future.